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Where do I start?

I began this program five weeks ago. It took me two weeks before I even opened anything on the website. I received an email today wanting to know how much weight I have lost and I have gained 17. I have been impacted by 13 years of working in a traumas of the worst kind any human beings can experience providing crisis and supports. I no longer work in that job, and I am realizing how much this job has impacted me to my very soul. The idea of tackling all this vicarious trauma is overwhelming and at the same time needs to be done. I use food as my instant guadification and comfort. Also, my self harm. I have food intolerances and these area the foods I punish myself with the most. I really only need to lose the 17 pounds I recently have gained. I need to learn how to respect myself and treat myself like I would others. Where and how can I start this program and not cause so much more harm to myself in the process?

Answer:

I am so glad that you are here in the program and that you are finally taking the time to work through your relationship with food. You have been using food as an instant gratification tool. But you can see that it is not solving the problems that came from your past job or giving you the comfort you really crave.

I would jump right to module 7 where it talks about emotions. Then I would look at module 5 where you learn about ‘The Model’ the tool to help you sort out the self fulfilling prophecy.

Then I would look at modules 8-10 on how to take responsibility for yourself without using procrastination or perfectionism.

When you look at those, I would then go back to modules 1-4 all about weight and food.

As you show up for yourself by watching the modules and doing the worksheets you will see how that is your way of respecting yourself.