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Model response

C: wedding ring
T: It is not ok to wear while dating
F: I wore the ring for support. Support that Brett is always here for me even in death. Now that I’m dating it seems wrong. I believe in karma. The gentleman I’m dating says it has cut him a couple of times. That isn’t the reason but I feel like it is a sign it is time. I’ve been thinking about it. I feel this is all part of me opening up to new things entering my life. Closing one door (Brett will always be apart) and allowing new things to flow in.
A: place ring in drawer
R: I no longer

C: Dating
T: resentful I’m doing this again
F: sad I don’t have Brett. I do like Curtis. He is fun and sweet man. Fear of expressing my feeling. However, if he can’t handle then he is not my guy.
A: over eating and shopping
R: worrying about what hasn’t happenes and gaining weight

Answer:

When you are working the model, it is best to have one feeling per model. Constrain the feeling to one emotion, not an explanation.

T: It is not ok to wear while dating
F:
A: place ring in drawer
R: I no longer

T: I wore the ring for support.
F:
A:
R:

C-dating
T-Support that Brett is always here for me even in death.
F-
A: place ring in drawer
R:

C-dating
T-Now that I’m dating it seems wrong.
A: place ring in drawer
R:

C: dating
T: I believe in karma.
F:
A: place ring in drawer
R:

When I break it down you will get a lot more clarity on all of the thoughts that you have. There are many emotions.

You have done the same thing with the second model

T- sad I don’t have Brett.
F-

t-I do like Curtis
F-

t-He is fun and sweet man.
F-