There was a situation at work a few weeks ago where someone approached me about what another coworker in a different department was saying about me (calling me a very unpleasant name to other staff members). On a certain level my thought are “this person doesn’t really know me” “their just gossiping” etc. But on another level I feel very hurt, sad, upset by this. I know I am definitely a people pleaser who avoids confrontation and wants everyone to like me. I am certain most people see right through this other persons actions/words. At first I was ruminating about said words but now I have come to joke about them with my direct team members (i.e. you know what so and so says bout me, I’m just the biggest B#@!* there is, lol). I know this is just a form of beating myself up because at the end of the day it still bothers me. How can I move on from this thought of everyone needing to like me & say good things about me?