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I am having a hard time with my sister in law that is completely controlling until things go her way. It would be simple enough to give in, but it really hurt as a family member who still feels on the outside after 37 years.
This is a great question and concern. I love that you are aware that she is trying to control things. Why do you think she is this way? People who tend to be controlling are this way because they don’t feel like they have control of their own life.
What would it be like to take what she wants into consideration and then decide for yourself what would work best for you and your family.
I am interested in how you feel like an outsider after 37 years of being part of the family. Belonging comes from what you think about yourself in the family. Even if family members say that you belong, you won’t ever believe them if you don’t accept the feeling of belonging.
It looks like there are two situations happening right now:
1. a sister in law who feels out of control so she is always trying to control everything and then the family bends to her will
2. you don’t feel like you belong so no matter what others say you won’t ever belong until you believe you belong
What do you think of these two different situations? Can you see it?
What one would you like to address first? You can address it in Ask A Coach or bring it to the group calls and I can help you walk through it.
I’m not sure how to use the Application section of the workbook. Would youlet me k ow how this section works.
Thank you.
The Application section of the workbook is for you to think about what you are learning with the new information that you are learning. If it is overwhelming don’t worry about it right now.
Can you please explain how I am supposed to use the 90 day workbook and the 12 modules? Even within the 12 modules, it isn’t clear how to use them. I have downloaded and looked over Module 1. I think I am supposed to watch all the lessons and then complete the worksheets using the videos that go over each worksheet?
But then when I look at the 90 day workbook, I can’t see how the two parts (90 day workbook and 12 modules) interact. And how to use the 90 day workbook? Do I read all of the materials in the front and use a journal to record my answers to the questions along the way? Is the Thought download sheet (p.10) just a reference for how to do thought downloads? The model on p. 11? Then when you get to the day by day plan, it refences module 3 on the first page.
So do I complete all the modules first and then use the 90 day workbook?
This feels like a very rocky start as I just feel confused about how to move forward.
I am thrilled that you are asking for guidance because it shows how invested you are.
I would focus on watching the modules and doing the co-ordinating worksheets. Get a habit of coming to the calls and listening to the coaching and practicing the tools.
The 90 day workbook takes the 12 modules and breaks the process into bite sized pieces. There are daily videos that you can get emailed to support your understanding.
I am sorry that you feel like a rocky start. Confused is a tricky emotion because it keeps you from taking action. I encourage you to come to the calls and ask me and the coaches as many questions as you need so you can start to develop your own habits and systems.
Remember when you first started to quilt and the rotary cutter or other tools felt awkward? It’s in the doing that you gain the confidence.
I have not been able to open any of the replays from this weeks radical love masterclass. Including the day 3 that I received in the past hour.
It just goes to a page that says 2024 dara tomasssom. All rights reserved. Privacy policy
Cathiexr@yahoo.ca
Did you get it resolved? I asked my team- please let me know.
Is this a big trauma?
How do I rewrite, retell this story. Because I’m living it again today!
I was about 16 or 17. There was a situation happening….My dad was pushing and slapping my mother around in the kitchen. Can’t remember how I came into the room, probably up from my bedroom which was down about 4 or 5 steps, when I heard the commotion. I can’t remember if he was drunk, but I think so. I saw what he was doing and I told him “to keep his ? hands off my mom”. He said no one speaks to him like that and pushed me down the steps. I have no recollection of what happened after.
So how does this story get retold or rewritten? What good comes out of it?
Do I tell it that I was brave to stand up to him for my mom’s sake or did I learn that when you stand up, confront or defend someone you get disciplined or? I know I learnt that no one would ever treat me like that ever!
Not sure I want live coaching on this, as it is a very personal matter to me. My husband had never heard this until I told him after dinner tonight. So I asked him how he’d retell the story and he couldn’t, because he can’t fathom the situation happening at all. It’s interesting that you think you’ve dealt with all this and it comes back to haunt you. 😥
Is this a big trauma?
-it can be confusing and frustrating to try to get everything put in a box or try to define every single thing. Different therapists or coaches will define trauma in many different ways. I recommend that you get your own definition of trauma and then use that as a lens for yourself to look through moving forward.
Whenever you remember a story from your past you are reliving it. However you are keeping it alive by the way you share the story. You always have your current self tell the story.
How do you want to tell the story? Do you want to be the heroine of your own life?
– you stood up to your dad and then you made sure that you married a man who never did this to you.
-you were brave to stand up to your father regardless of the consequences
-did you get disciplined for standing up or did you find your voice no matter what happens. You are a person who stands up for the people you love and don’t worry about the consequences because you have that strength of character.
-this story does not have the power to haunt you. The only thing that haunts you is the thoughts that you choose to think
I love to be the hero of my own life. Being a victim takes away your power every time. What do you think of these suggestions?
I am not sure what happened to the question that you had about trauma- I just wanted to respond here to let you know that the question did not appear. I am here to help you whenever you have the question. If you are having difficulty using the technology you can always write support@daratomasson.com for help.
I have been looking for the River of Misery Podcast referenced in one of your videos. Is there any kind of an index available to find it more easily than scrolling through all of them?
Great question, unfortunately there is not an index for the Podcasts. You will just need to look through them in order to find the specific one you are looking for.
I have been searching for the "River of Misery " podcast you referenced in one of the videos. Is there a list of the names of the podcasts with their number? I am currently starting at the beginning and looking through them one at at a time. Is there an index somewhere that would help me find it faster?? Also the very first page of the podcasts starts on number 2. Where is #1?
Great question, unfortunately there is not an index for the Podcasts. You will just need to look through them in order to find the specific one you are looking for.
So, I started the 90 day workbook the week after I signed up as we were not in a place I could work on it. Now I’ve got 5 days left and it has disappeared from my portal. I am going to go around a second time but don’t want to start until December first. I would really like to do the last five days before I restart. Is there any way I can do this? I’ve been struggling with this for several hours trying to figure bout what happened. I didn’t realize it would shut off before I had completed it.
Thanks for asking about this. If you have a technical question like this, the best thing to do is email support@daratomasson.com and they are happy to resolve that for you.
I would love to hear in the Facebook group or the group calls about the wins you are having because of the 90 day workbook. What are you getting from this daily practice?
Will the November reboot call replay be posted soon?
I love that you are excited about getting the replays. This is a question for the support team because they do all of the technical stuff. You can email them at support@daratomasson.com
I asked a coach question several (maybe 4) days ago but haven’t received an answer. It was about the statement “fats heal”.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-truth-about-fats-bad-and-good
In day 62 you said protein s build carbs fuel and fats heal. Can you elaborate on fats heal? In what way and what’s the best way to use them?
When the video is almost over it just stops mid sentence /word and goes to the end screen. It sound like you are saying something valuable but it just cuts off and I don’t get to hear the complete thought. This has happened in the last few I watched. I’m on Day 57 today.
I am sorry that it got cut off. I will ask my team about this- if you can email support@daratomasson.com and let them which videos are problematic, then they can troubleshoot. Thanks for helping me with this.
I read that all our body needs are Meat/beans, Vegetables, Fat, and water and the rest is optional. Does this mean we should look at fruit as a planned joy eat?
I like this question because it illustrates that there are so many different ways we can get healthy. I like the science that shows that our bodies need healthy high fibre fruits and vegetables. Finding a science person you can trust is really important. Fact checking is key.
to answer your question I would consider that high fibre fruit are: Apples, bananas, oranges, strawberries all have around 3 to 4 grams of fiber, raspberries win the fiber race at 8 grams per cup,mangoes, persimmons, and guavas are also good sources of fiber: A mango has 5 grams, a persimmon has 6, and 1 cup of guava has about 9.
I have put a couple of questions in the Ask a Coach but haven't seen any response. What am I not doing??
I apologize- can you give me an idea what the subject of the questions was so that we can make sure they are addressed.
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